Living Abroad with Insecurities
So when I moved from Zim a few years back, everyone assumed I was ok since I lived in an amazing ‘paradise.’ Ha! Wrong. Being at home I had enough issues to give me anxiety, there were a lot of hypothetical situations in my head, and that was all I needed to get me worried. So moving was supposed to be some miracle that dealt with these issues and I was well on my way?
The one thing I learnt was anxiety and worry has absolutely nothing to do with my location or call I.D. It had everything to do with my state of mind, past experiences as well as my surroundings. I could be sitting on the metro, taking a walk on the beach or signing in to work and still dealing with insecurities. One thing I learnt whilst I was living abroad was'Life still Happens' Click To Tweet
Why people are all kinds of anxious?
- Not fitting in or standing out for the wrong reasons. Lets be real no one wants to feel like they are an outcast. That’s a crappy feeling and I don’t wish it on anyone. I remember being assigned to the Dubai Mall and I had to put in my hours and along came these guys from an Asian country which I shall not name. They had me in the spotlight for all the wrong reasons. They wanted to take pics with a ‘black person.’ Awkward I tell yah. That encounter had me so upset but I had to put on a front and smile and no they did not get any pics. I kindly let them down.
- Stability. If your visa status in a country is unstable, that is enough to have you anxious. Let me throw in another real life experience. I was working for this other brand and my senior-in-line just didn’t like me. So any opportunity they got to throw me under the bus they took it up until a point when I was almost fired for their shortcomings. If anyone knows anything about working in that country, then you know you cannot stay if you do not have a job. So imagine waking up everyday knowing someone wants your head on a platter? Excuse my anxiety levels yoll.
- Fomo (fear of missing out) can be real guys. Need I say more!
Tips on how to handle anxieties when you move abroad.
- Make new friends. Find people who will accept you for you, will listen and are present. The friends I made along the way are everything. Ha! we used to laugh at everything and had our own secret language, priceless! We still Skype and laugh and I know our bond is forever. Go ahead and create a new tribe.
3.Feed your favourite pastime.Reading, Yoga, Working out, Shopping etc… Whatever empowers you enhance it. Its great for the soul so engage it even more because its a perfect distraction
Its perfectly ok for you to feel the way you feel. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Your feelings are valid!